Bob brought Tara to the doctor yesterday afternoon and doc said she does not have HFMD! What a piece of good news. You know, I was feeling so down after receiving the call from the administrator and so many things ran through my mind. Should I, should I not... Why did I, why didn't I... My colleague tried one of her cute antics but I got no mood to laugh with her.
I'm just glad my little girl was given a clean bill of health! And last night, I gave her extra attention and of course, extra hugs and kisses.
This morning, Bob brought her to school. Bob told me the principal wasn't too happy to see Tara. Even though I understand her concerns, but Tara was given the all clear, we have no reasons to keep her home right? Especially when she has missed so many days of school ever since she started in January. Even so, I'm quite worried that the principal might isolate Tara.
I checked Tara thoroughly just now, even the couple of ulcers on her lower lips were gone. Total peace of mind for me.
Something that worries me though. Tara was in the room with me in the evening and going with her usual ramblings and all of a sudden, she mumbled "我不喜欢爸爸..". I kind of know why she said that but I asked her again just to be sure. I asked if she said she doesn't like Daddy, she nodded her head. Then I re-phrase my question, I asked if she likes Daddy, she shook her head. Concerned, I asked her why, but she refused to reply me. I asked if it's because Daddy scolded her, smacked her but she still didn't reply and walked out of the room.
When she came back in again, I hugged her close and told her that she must not dislike Daddy because Daddy loves her very much. Daddy is fierce because Tara is naughty. If Tara behaves, Daddy will give her hugs and kisses so she must not dislike Daddy. She kept nodding her head.
And after a while, Bob walked in. I told him there was something I need to tell him but I will only tell him when Tara is not around. Bob managed to get Tara to go look for her Grandma. I told Bob what Tara said and I can see that he was a little surprised and then his headstrong character came in. The don't-like-nevermind-loh attitude. Bob has been really strict with Tara recently, and has zero tolerance when it comes to disciplining her. My guess is most probably his work stress. Bob is never one to talk about his problems, but being his wife for years, I sort of know what happens when I look at his face. But Tara, being just an innocent toddler, wouldn't know when not to step on the "land mine". And thus, she received more scoldings than hugs from Daddy recently.
Bob, of course, loves her little girl very much. Whenever we are out without her, he would always speak fondly about his little girl's recent antics and blah.. blah.. And he always looked forward to seeing her even though we were only away for 3 hours. But minutes after the loving hugs and kisses, he would usually ended up shouting at her and Tara would be crying away. For a little toddler, seeing Daddy means getting scoldings, so I'm not surprised that Tara would feel that way about Bob.
I've told Bob countless times, the way he scolded Tara sounded like he really hated her. That is of course not true. I told him there are many ways to get a message across, and he always chose the worse kind.
Later in the night, Tara was playing beside Bob but he was obviously ignoring her. But I can tell Bob was pretty upset and trying not hard not to show. The minute I walked away, I heard Bob whispering to Tara. I don't know what he said to her, but I know he was trying to make things right.
I just hope that things will turn out right and Tara will change her mind about Daddy. Bob has always listened me. I just hope he will do the same this time. I really don't want our little girl to grow up thinking that Daddy don't love her.
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